7/18/22 - thoughts & opinions

Ever Since polyamory & poly relationships became the norm this day and age I’ve noticed a slight amount of people that are poly tend give harsh opinions on monogamous people, and it’s usually the same arguments too:

Like

“Monogamy is a prison “

“You’re stupid if you think you can only love one person “

“Humans aren’t meant to have just 1 partner”

While I personally have zero issues with poly

Lifestyles and those that partake its just frustrating when my preferred lifestyle is shunned and made out to be some sort of bad thing. And i know not everyone thinks that way and majority of them are usually really cool and understanding. It just becomes a little discouraging when you see people try to invalidate you.

Respectfully i can see how it could be easily said the other way around but at the end of the day everyone should just mind their own lifestyle.

I personally couldn’t comfortably be in any form of a poly relationship, and if i were I would just be compensating .

Its already bad enough that every-time i had a falling out with my last ex because I wasn’t sexually satisfying him enough he would always ask to have an open relationship or wanted to see other people but still be with me. The logic never made sense but it traumatized me to the point that if anyone were to ask or suggest for a poly or open relationship I would feel that I’m not significant enough or making them happy enough to be monogamous.

Its bad enough I fear I’ll become sexually boring or my performance would get repetitive . And sharing a relationship (especially a living space) with another woman or person just never made me comfortable .

I wont lie i can definitely be insecure and even slightly jealous sometimes and i just know how i am. And I’ve gotten better at communicating that when i do feel something is bothering me. When i get close to someone romantically I rather focus on just them and only them.

Now i can understand why some feel monogamy can be toxic because people can become overtly possessive, and controlling . But those same things can happen in poly relationships too probably not as much but it’s possible.

Also i hate it when people that are poly suddenly think they have a master’s degree in maturity and think they’re better than anyone whos not poly. Like people definitely still cheat and fuck up with multiple partners . And Honestly I don’t think they’re special either.